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Making Important Decisions

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on July 11, 2014
Making Important Decisions When difficult, important decisions have to be made, it’s good to have a clear view of our priorities. We need to know the goals we have set and the principles we believe in to help us reach those goals. We look for confirmation of our decisions in our moral reasoning, gut-level feelings, […]
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Marijuana

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on May 21, 2014
Marijuana:  Thoughts on its Use, Abuse, and Legalization I have never really had a position or opinion on marijuana, and in recent weeks I have grown weary of this ignorance.  To prepare my thoughts on this subject, I have done three things.  First, I have obtained professional training as a certified addictions specialist from the […]
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Alcoholism

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
I. What is alcoholism? A. Chronic, progressive, incurable, fatal disease that is characterized by loss of control over alcohol and other sedatives. 1. Chronic—you’ve had the problem for a little while. 2. Progressive-- Grows on you; gets worse; going to take more alcohol to get a good buzz. 3. Incurable-- Always going to have it; after years […]
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Relapse Repair

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
What caused my relapse (inner circle violation)? What had I neglected from the program I was working (outer circle, preventive behaviors)? For how long? Why? What else should I have (and can now) put in that outer circle as recovery behaviors? What slips had I ignored, not made amends for (middle circle)? What else should […]
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The Win-Win Endgame for a Gridlocked Marriage

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
My heart goes out to couples who seem forever caught between a rock and a hard place in their marriage. When they talk with each other about anything personal, it seems like they have to choose between either being kind to their mates by quietly absorbing disrespect, or else standing up for themselves honestly, only […]
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Reversing Unhealthy Relationships

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
It seems to me that most Americans have one or more people somewhere in their family or friends that they just can't get along with. The way it feels is like, "I just don't feel comfortable around them. I can't be myself. They make me feel and act crazy, so I prefer to avoid them." […]
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Understanding Each Other: His Needs, Her Needs

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
Twenty years ago psychologist Willard Harley’s book His Needs, Her Needs became very popular. His research found men to need primarily the following five things from their wives, in this order: sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, an attractive spouse, domestic support, and admiration. Women on the other hand, he found reported needing the following from their husbands: affection, conversation, […]
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How to Fire Up Your Love Life

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
I couldn’t resist this shameless cheese-tart title. I’m just hoping you won’t have to buy your Maxim or Cosmo this month. If they printed this, they’d lose readers. Because our focus here will be on the primary sex organ, the brain, I won’t need to mention any body parts or sexual acts. I am going to give you a technique though, […]
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Resolving Power Imbalance in Marriage

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
Last week’s column was about double standards, which are privileges given to one spouse but not the other. We learned that when power and privilege are distributed unevenly in a marriage, those underprivileged spouses over time come to believe they are indeed second-class, unworthy of being trusted. They take more and more of their identity, worth, confidence, […]
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