September 15, 2021
The Lies of "Soft Pornography"

There’s nothing soft about the damage “soft pornography” does to those not aware of its dangers.  And few people are.  If you use pornography or know somebody who does, here are fifteen common lies whispered to us by the purveyors of sex trash in magazines, movies, and websites. I can control myself.  I will be able to keep […]

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September 10, 2021
Four Circles

  Four-Circle Sobriety Plan          Four concentric circles represent three important lists of behaviors, and one list of warning signs. These lists will be fluid, and you will need to add and subtract new items on a regular basis, at least from the boundaries list and the recovery behaviors below.   Use these lists to structure […]

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September 7, 2021
Giving Sex and Love Education to Your Children

How Relevant are Traditional Values in our Pornified Culture? by Dr. Paul F. Schmidt   Sexual energy, beautiful bodies, romantic love, and close relationships -- as much as they are idolized in our culture, there is nothing inherently good or bad about them.  They are all morally neutral resources, because they can be used for […]

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August 22, 2021
Recovering from Trauma and Abuse

Can People Recover from Trauma and Abuse?              It is with both pride and embarrassment that America has become known as a victims’ society.  We can be proud that we prosecute perpetrators of rape, domestic violence, and child abuse at least as severely as most developed nations.  But we should […]

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August 10, 2021
Biblical Insights and Questions about Sexual Sin

           (Each paragraph can be a private devotional, or a class for group discussion.) The Bible gives in rich detail how life unfolds for people who fall into sexual sin. It was pure visual seduction for David when he laid eyes on his neighbor’s wife Bathsheba (2Sam 11). His heart followed his eyes in violating the […]

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June 30, 2021

HOW TO WORK A 12-STEP PROGRAM What exactly is a 12-step program? It is the people, principles, prayers, and lifestyle practices of recovery from addiction that was started by Alcoholics Anonymous back in the 1930’s. To work a program successfully, you need all four—the people, principles, prayers, and practices. You can’t just read and learn […]

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December 22, 2020
3 Meetings for Restoring Marital Trust

About Disclosure, Impact Survey, and Restitution Full Written Disclosure The first section here is the outline about how to make your written disclosure, with your wife’s counselor present for her.  Your disclosure includes your behavior only, not your thoughts and feelings, not the behavior of others, not why you did it, just a thorough inclusive […]

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February 12, 2020
Overcoming the Tyranny of the Orgasm

Overthrowing the Tyranny of the Orgasm When it comes to the experience of sexual climax, many people feel some performance pressure.  This mental and emotional strain has been called the tyranny of the orgasm.  How would you know if this tension is harming your love life?  You could ask yourself these questions: Do I feel […]

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December 10, 2018
Porn Abuse in Teens

Pornography Abuse in Teenagers: How Parents can Understand and Reverse It   America’s surgeon general has agreed with the consensus of research:   9 out of every 10 young people will be exposed to Internet pornography before they reach age 18.   Quarantine assumes you are more savvy with technology than your teen, which is highly doubtful.  […]

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March 17, 2018
Diagnosing and Understanding Sex Addiction

Sex Addiction Assessment   Marie Wilson, MA and Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D., CAS The following are some of the extreme examples we see today that exemplify the insanity of sexual addiction: A woman uses a vibrator so intensely she burns herself and has to go to the emergency room. A priest has a thousand-dollar-a-week prostitution […]

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