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Guilt, Bogus Guilt, and Shame

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on August 25, 2016
  GUILT, BOGUS GUILT, AND SHAME: How can you tell the Difference?   If you’re feeling bad about yourself, you might as well do it up right. Make something good come out of it. You can do it three different ways, and though they all feel pretty much the same at the time, the way […]
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HOW TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on May 23, 2016
  HOW GOOD ARE YOUR PERSONAL BOUNDARIES?   The food, drink and pills you take in through your mouth determine more than anything else how healthy your body is. Likewise the beliefs, expectations and responsibilities you take in through your relationships mostly determine the health of your heart, mind and soul. Your happiness depends even […]
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Should your Adult Child Live in or out of your Home?

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on May 5, 2016
    ADULT CHILDREN: SHOULD THEY BE IN OR OUT OF THE NEST? PARENT: My son wants to move back home, with his tail between his legs. This is the second time he’s lost his job and his girlfriend under the same circumstance: saying he wants to get away from his friends who are pot-heads, […]
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Mood Swings, Moodiness, or Bipolar?

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 20, 2016
MOODINESS, MOOD SWINGS, AND BIPOLAR DISORDER Most of us get called moody once in awhile, and the term bipolar gets thrown around an awful lot these days. When we discuss someone’s moods, we need to define our terms very carefully. Bipolar Disorder is a major psychological disorder, requiring counseling, periodic or long-term regimens of medicine, […]
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Neutralizing Emotional Bullies

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on March 22, 2016
    NEUTRALIZING EMOTIONAL BULLIES               When you think of a bully, most people think first of physical intimidation. But as adults, we more often encounter emotional bullies. These people figure out what kind of emotional scenes we can’t tolerate, and then dramatically produce or threaten these very scenes. They do this to manipulate […]
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Before You Divorce, Try This

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on March 2, 2016
  BEFORE GIVING UP ON A BAD MARRIAGE . . .             I have helped people create a peaceful divorce once they decide to go that way, but I have never advised anyone to get a divorce. One reason is that the heartache it cures is seldom as great as the heartache it creates, especially […]
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Information for Wives

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on February 9, 2016
31 Insights and Solutions for Wives of Sex Addicts          Since all of the sex addicts I work with are heterosexual males, and virtually all are married, I will be addressing these remarks to their “wives”. The same dynamic would usually apply to other forms of romantic partnership.   Many though not all of the items […]
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PHASES of Recovery for Sex Addicts, their Wives & Marriages

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on January 6, 2016
The most important things to understand about the outlines below are: The phases need to be experienced in order, as each requires things learned in earlier stages.  None of these phases can be completed without ongoing guidance and support from others. The marriage cannot recover unless both parties and the marriage itself go through each […]
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How to Prepare for YOUR MARITAL COUNSELING

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on December 8, 2015
  HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR MARITAL COUNSELING          To get ready for marital counseling, to avoid either of you being expected to work on something you don’t want to address, and to make sure you hit the floor running, you would both do well to: Write down your hopes for any marital counseling you […]
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