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Understanding Each Other: Emotional Infidelity vs. Excessive Jealousy

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
Of all the columns I’ve written, this is the one I’ve had the most requests to send out, and to expand and revise. The following is a 60% longer version of a column I wrote three years ago. Though it will talk about marriage, it is also meant for those in long-term committed love relationships. The opportunity […]
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Marriage Helpers from the Seattle Love Lab

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
Dr. John Gottman’s research has demonstrated seven communication styles which will cause a couple to be truly happy with each other. Elaborate explanations for these helpful habits can be found in Gottman’s book, Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (New York: Three Rivers Press, 1999). Enhance your love maps Regularly work at trying to get a fresh […]
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Award-Winning Research: Preventing Divorce

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
A recent issue of Psychotherapy Networker reviews 25 years of research on counseling, and concludes that the most convincing and influential work was done by Dr. John Gottman on marriage and divorce. (Dr. Gottman was also the only researcher listed in the top ten most influential therapists.) Originally a mathematician, Gottman’s research was well designed and funded. […]
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Sixteen Guidelines for Marriage: How Do You Measure Up?

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
It is sad and silly that we can get a marriage license without knowing anything about how to be married. Here are some practical guidelines that can serve like a How-to manual for marriage. You might want to send this to a marriage you know that’s in trouble. For yourself, give you and your mate […]
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Power Struggles Between Parents and Children

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
All parents from time to time find themselves locked into an ongoing power struggle with a child. The parent’s natural instinct response to a child’s misbehavior is met with more and more of that behavior. My suggestions here will require parents to go against their instincts. Many of the ideas below can be found in […]
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How and Why to Spoil (or Not Spoil) Your Kids or What Spoiled Kids Need

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on April 1, 2014
If you’ve ever wondered why so many people spoil their children, it’s simple. They get two big pay-offs. First, the obvious: it’s easier just to get through the moment by indulging children’s demands, rather than stopping to teach them a lesson. And the more subtle reason is that by living for and through the child, […]
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Stephanie & Paul, April 2007

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on March 27, 2014
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Family Mission Statements

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on March 27, 2014
From Steven Covey’s Seven Habits of Highly Successful People/Families: [blockquote_left] Habit #2: Begin with the end in mind. Avoid emotional cancers from toxic society: complaining, criticizing, comparing, competing. Mission statements should be timeless, addressing both ends and means. Covey’s personal mission statement: Live, love, learn, and leave a legacy. Families need to create their mission statement together, not […]
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Family Missions and Rules

By Dr. Paul Schmidt  on March 27, 2014
Steven Covey’s best-selling book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People made a great case for individuals and families to draw up mission statements. He suggested the mission be timeless (ongoing), and that the statement include both the means and ends (the hows and whys) for the mission. Different families have different top priorities. I’ve seen families that […]
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