Four Core False Beliefs of Sexual Addiction

Below are four lies your addiction will keep trying to get you to believe.  They are discussed in several of Dr. Patrick Carnes’ books.  In order to train your brain to think differently, make your own copy of this document, and add after each one ideas that will counteract them.  Unbold the lie, and leave the healthy ideas in bold face.  For each healthy idea, cite your source (authority).  Carry a copy of this with you as a tool in your fire drill kit.  And as you discover other lies your addiction tells you in your head, write them down as well, beginning with #5, and record the healthy ideas that correct these lies.  Keep sharpening this knife to cut thru the crap you will no doubt keep hearing in your head for awhile.  The more you use this tool, the less you will hear the lies.

  1. I am basically a bad, unworthy person.
  2. No one would love me as I am.
  3. My needs are never going to be met if I have to depend on other people.
  4. Sex is the most important sign of love. (or)  Sex is my most important need.

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